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30 Days of Praying for Your Spouse
One short focus a day, with a Bible verse for each. It takes about a minute, and it changes how you see the person across the table.
How to use it
- One minute, same time each day. With your morning coffee, on the drive, or before you fall asleep. Read the focus, then pray it in your own words, by name.
- Read the verse when you can. Each day links to a short passage. It's there to pray from, not to study.
- Once a week, tell them. “This week I've been praying for your work.” It's one of the kindest things you can say.
- Miss a day? Just pick up the next one. There's no catching up and no falling behind.
- Doing it together? Each of you can pray the same day for the other, then talk about it on the weekend.
The 30 days
Days 1–7Their heart
- Day 1Knowing God's love
Pray they'd know God's love more deeply this week, not just know about it.
Ephesians 3:17-19 (NIV) - Day 2Peace
Pray for a heart at peace, whatever this week brings.
Philippians 4:6-7 (NIV) - Day 3Rest
Pray they'd find real rest, and not feel guilty taking it.
Matthew 11:28-30 (NIV) - Day 4Joy
Pray for a joy that doesn't depend on how the week goes.
Nehemiah 8:10 (NIV) - Day 5Freedom from worry
Pray that whatever they're carrying, they'd hand it to God.
1 Peter 5:7 (NIV) - Day 6Courage
Pray for courage for the hard thing in front of them.
Joshua 1:9 (NIV) - Day 7Their thoughts
Pray their mind would dwell on what's true and good.
Philippians 4:8 (NIV)
Days 8–14Their days
- Day 8Their work
Pray their work would feel meaningful, and that they'd do it well.
Colossians 3:23 (NIV) - Day 9Wisdom
Pray for wisdom in the decisions they're facing.
James 1:5 (NIV) - Day 10Health
Pray for their body: strength, good sleep and health.
3 John 1:2 (NIV) - Day 11Friendships
Pray for good friends who sharpen them.
Proverbs 27:17 (NIV) - Day 12Integrity
Pray they'd walk with integrity when no one's watching.
Proverbs 10:9 (NIV) - Day 13Temptation
Pray for protection from whatever tempts them most.
1 Corinthians 10:13 (NIV) - Day 14Money
Pray for contentment and generosity in how you both handle money.
Hebrews 13:5 (NIV)
Days 15–21Their character
- Day 15Patience and kindness
Pray the Spirit would grow patience and kindness in them, and in you.
Galatians 5:22-23 (NIV) - Day 16Their words
Pray their words would build others up, starting at home.
Ephesians 4:29 (NIV) - Day 17Humility
Pray for a humble heart that looks out for others.
Philippians 2:3-4 (NIV) - Day 18Strength in hard moments
Pray for power, love and self-discipline in their hardest moments.
2 Timothy 1:7 (NIV) - Day 19Their gifts
Pray they'd see the good work they were made for.
Ephesians 2:10 (NIV) - Day 20Doing good
Pray they wouldn't grow weary of doing good.
Galatians 6:9-10 (NIV) - Day 21Growing faith
Pray their faith would keep growing, in what they know and how they live.
Colossians 1:9-10 (NIV)
Days 22–28The two of you
- Day 22Unity
Pray you'd face things side by side, not against each other.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (NIV) - Day 23Forgiveness
Pray for quick forgiveness between you, both ways.
Colossians 3:13 (NIV) - Day 24Love that lasts
Pray for a patient, kind love that doesn't keep score.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV) - Day 25Friendship and romance
Pray your friendship and romance would stay strong.
Song of Songs 8:6-7 (NIV) - Day 26Your home
Pray your home would be a place where faith is lived, not just talked about.
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 (NIV) - Day 27Hope
Pray for hope that overflows, especially in a hard season.
Romans 15:13 (NIV) - Day 28Gratitude
Pray you'd both notice, and say, what you're thankful for.
1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NIV)
Days 29–30Looking ahead
- Day 29Endurance
Pray for endurance for the long road, with eyes fixed on Jesus.
Hebrews 12:1-2 (NIV) - Day 30Your future together
Pray you'd trust God together with what's ahead.
Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV)
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R.O.S. has a place for it
R.O.S. is a relationship app built on how each of you is wired. When you both choose the faith option, it adds what this guide starts: a Praying for you button that lets your spouse know, with a short note on what you're praying; a shared prayer list where you can mark prayers answered; 30 days of short readings on marriage, one question each; and a closing prayer at your Weekly Huddle.
Questions
Is this for husbands or wives?
Both. Every day is written so either spouse can pray it for the other.
Which Bible translation do the verses use?
The New International Version (NIV). Each reference links to the passage on Bible Gateway, where you can switch to another translation if you like.
What if I've never prayed out loud, or don't know what to say?
Pray it silently, in plain words, the way you'd talk to a friend. One honest sentence is plenty. The focus for the day gives you a starting point.
Should I tell my spouse I'm doing this?
That's up to you. Many people start quietly and mention it after a week or so. Telling them what you prayed for is often more meaningful than announcing the plan.
What happens after day 30?
Start again. The second time through, you'll notice how much has changed, and you can add your own focus for each day.
Is this a substitute for counseling?
No. Prayer is a powerful habit, and it isn't a substitute for pastoral care or professional counseling when you need it. If you're in danger, call 911, the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233), or 988.